Happy holidays! Welcome back to beyond the bedroom, and whether you're celebrating something happy Christmas and Happy Hanukkah and Happy Kwanzaa and happy winter break, even if it's just for a day or two, if you're enjoying a nice weekend. This is a time of year that a lot of people feel a lot of different emotions, right? I get a lot of sex questions this time of year, because people are visiting their childhood homes a lot of the time, and that brings up stuff, and they are navigating holidays with a partner for the first time, or maybe they're hosting their partner's family. Maybe they're alone and they're dating, and that kind of throws a wrench in things a lot of the time when you have to split up, sometimes people are single and they're feeling extra lonely. So whatever the case may be, I put together this little holiday episode. It's a little mini episode, a special episode, and I'm gonna go through some holiday questions and give my predictions for 2025 I always do a little what I predict the sex trends may be. I'm gonna go into it in more detail in my next episode, which will be like the official New Year episode, where we're gonna talk about sex resolutions and what you want to do in the sexy new year and how to accomplish it. But for right now, I collected my favorite little holiday questions. A lot of them will be Christmas themed, because a lot of them are actually from my Icelandic audience that I translated over into English. And I really love just how intense Christmas is back in Iceland, I am celebrating the holidays here in Brooklyn. We decided to stay here for for the holidays this year, and by the way, I am recording this in our bedroom, and you're probably going to hear people doing a little bit of getting ready for an event and walking around. So just ignore that. Just pretend that we're all here together, and we'll we're all chatting, right? And as Icelanders, my husband and I, we celebrate Christmas on the 24th we do Christmas Eve, and then just Christmas Day is just like a really chill day. We don't really do anything. So Christmas Eve is like when we open our presents and everything. It's just a good reminder sometimes that you know, you don't have to spend, like, a ton of money a lot of the time. The best gifts are when someone really just gets you. And you know, to be loved is to be seen. I say that a lot, but it really does matter. It makes a big difference. If you kind of didn't know what to get someone, and you felt like weird, like, Oh, I just feel like they didn't really get it. If you're not really a big gift giver either, like you just never can tell, don't be afraid to ask questions. I think communication is key in a lot of things. I say that all the time as a sex educator, right? But I think that we put a lot of pressure on people to, like, get the perfect gift, and sometimes we forget best gifts are sometimes like, things you wouldn't necessarily pick out for yourself, but you're like, Wow, this actually does look great on me, or like, this is exactly what I needed. I just didn't even realize. And then, obviously it's always amazing to get something that you mentioned or asked for. So I get this question all the time where people are like, I want to give a sex toy. And I'm like, okay, but is this something that, like, your partner has ever mentioned? You know, I talked about that a lot last episode, and the feedback I got in that episode was really great. Like, a lot of people were like, wow, I never really considered, like, when I was gifting lingerie, it was more for me than for her. I'm like, Well, yeah, it's always like a little bonus gift. Yeah, if you haven't checked out that episode, it is still it's a holiday episode, but it's still a pretty evergreen one as well. So without further ado, let me get into the first really time sensitive, honestly, question here, and also, I do sound pretty sleepy. I know it's because I am sleepy. I've been doing a lot of holiday cooking and cleaning, and now I'm finally relaxing So, and this is relaxing for me, okay?

So my gorgeous listener said: “For Christmas Eve, my girlfriend presented me with her gift. She had wrapped herself in a bow, nothing underneath. She basically said, ‘Here you go!’ She said I could do whatever I wanted for one night. I know that this may be other guys’ fantasy, but I was kind of taken aback. She didn't get me anything else. And although she probably meant this as a thoughtful gift, it missed the mark for me. It felt kind of icky, because it made me feel like she was giving up her consent, and that didn't feel like much of a gift to me. It was really awkward, and I felt so embarrassed. She felt like I ruined her present because I wasn't down for sex right there and then, and she felt like I was taking something away from her. I'm really curious if this is a kink of hers, and how do I go about talking to her about that? It's been a little while, and we still haven't really discussed it, and it definitely has impacted our intimate life badly.”

Okay, so this is something that I hear kind of often. You know, I think this might surprise people, but people will ask me a lot, like, oh, like, I'm gonna wrap myself in a bow and give my present. You know, that's the present, like, as a joke. And I'm like, that's, I love that. That's so funny. But when people actually do it, a lot of the time, they'll message me and they'll be like, Oh my gosh. Like, I did that last year, and it backfired, and it was really awkward. And, I mean, I know there's often, like, media depictions of this, and then we have, like, the reverse is always really funny, right? Like, if a man puts a bow on his penis, it's like, either seen as, like, gross or like, inappropriate. Always, like, that whole SNL skit that was like, Dick in a Box. Like, I gave her my Dick in a Box. Like, I think that, and I'm not gonna get to like, feminist theory over here, because I don't think that's really like, the only part of this right, the way that we think about sex is often that, you know, it is like a gift to our partner, if we're, like, willing to compromise on stuff. And it's like, well, you can do that one thing you want. And some people react really well to that. Some people are like, that's so hot. I get to, like, do the thing I want. And they see it as like, if you're gifting this to me, then you're down. And some people are a little bit more black and white. They're like, if it's a gift, you can't return it. So then, like, it's weird for me, because you can't revoke consent at any time. So, you know, it's perspective, it's values. Like, you know, sometimes clashing sexual values can make people really uncomfortable in that situation. Because some people would see that as like, oh my god, that's so sexy. I love that. And other people would be like, Well, why are you, like, withholding this for one for the rest of the time, and you're doing something you might not want to do, I don't own you for one night, while other people might see as more like you're gifting me an experience.

Some people might also say that quality time is so important, and making this effort and putting this effort into your intimate life is a gift in itself, while other people might be like, wow, like you didn't get me anything, like you're just putting a bow on yourself, like we have sex all the time. So I can totally understand, like, both sides of this, and I'm kind of painting this picture, because a lot of people may have really strong opinions about this, and I want to say, hey, it depends on what people have experienced and what their values are, and we should validate both sides of this, right? All right. So now I'm done playing referee. Let me tell you how to navigate this. I don't think based on this, she might have had any ill intent, right, but I understand you might feel you're not being seen. I mentioned earlier in the episode, being loved is to be seen. And sometimes when we feel like our partner doesn't get it, or get us, or like, why would you think I would react that way? It makes us feel misunderstood. And even though I am in sex ed, I'm in public health, you know, it is a big part of what I do. Is like, you know, talk about, kind of the the perceptions of things and so. So although, like, I'm not here to coach you about your feelings or therapies, I will say that the different perspectives on stuff like can really mess with people's intimate lives. I totally understand why you would feel embarrassed, because you're like, wait, like, why don't I want to do this because it's also that media depiction. Because you said here, I know this may be other guys' fantasy, but I was kind of taken aback. It's like, well, even though other guys might be really into it, it doesn't necessarily mean that you have to be into it. And I don't know how true that is, that it would be like every guy's fantasy, or other guys, you know, because there's this like gendered script that, like, guys always have to be down for sex, and sometimes, if you like, thrust something upon someone this way, no pun intended, it can put a lot of pressure on them to perform, and it can feel really weird, and all of a sudden they don't want to have sex anymore, but they feel like they're failing as a man, because it's like we see all these depictions of men Being like horn dogs that are just down for anything anytime, right? So here's what I would do. I think that it's good to, like, give it some space and time. I think you should tell her that the reason, and this is what I'm getting from like reading this, the reason it missed the mark for you, is because you want her to feel ownership over her own body and her own consent always, like you really care for her, and you can say I thought you were so sexy, like, I always think you're sexy. You're not sexier to me just because it's Christmas Eve, I loved that you wanted to do this with me, but I want to make sure that you understand, that you know you feeling good, and you having, like, full consent and you being in control of the situation, that's what's hottest to me. I love seeing you feel good. I love making sure that you're safe. I love making sure you have autonomy over yourself. Those are things I care about the most. And why don't we do a redo, and we pick out, like, a really sexy outfit for you to wear, and we schedule some time, and maybe we have sex, maybe we don't, but we get to really enjoy the idea of what you gave me. But you know, on on our own terms and on, on our own time, I think that that would be really cute, you know, I think that would be like, a good way to compromise in terms of, like, her not feeling like it totally went to waste, but you being like, I just wasn't ready for this. And I just want to check in and make sure you're good. Like, let's, you know, I still care for you. And just really underlying that message, it's totally okay to be honest and open. And you know, she probably was embarrassed too. She probably feels bad that she embarrassed you. So the one thing, though I say that is like a bit of a red flag here, is that she said she felt like I ruined her present because you weren't down. Tell her that that's not okay. Sometimes things are fantasies and they don't play out in reality, because things like consent and desire, you know, play a role. So tell her that when you gift sex, if the other person doesn't accept it, that's not really a fair position to put them in. But if, if you guys have talked about that then, but yeah, this is a really tricky one, you know, because there's a lot of stuff going on. There's a lot of moving parts. Try again and and have, like, a little put on that bow again. Let me unwrap you. Or have her, like, put on the sexiest thing that you love seeing her in. And then you can, like, unwrap your present, so to speak. Tell her also, like, if it makes you feel uncomfortable to feel ownership over someone, make sure she knows that, and make sure she knows why. But also make sure it's not like a I respect you too much to have sex with you type of thing, because, you know, you can deeply respect people that you still can do dirty things with them, you know. But I'm gonna turn this one to the audience too. What do you think that he should do in this situation? And if that, were you in that situation that gifted someone's sex, or was receiving sex by someone as a gift, and it just didn't go well, or if it has been you, what have you done about it, and how did it go? And what would you do if you were in the situation?

Okay, so next question is, it's kind of like a little story time that we can react to together. So the next one: “My boyfriend has always been a little reserved in sex. He's not judgmental, he has an open mind, but he's always a little weird about certain things, and just way more reserved than I am. I visited his family for the first time a few weeks ago, but we stayed at an Airbnb since his whole extended family was in town, but I noticed during that visit that his parents are a lot more reserved than my family, from what they talk about to how they approach conversations about our relationship, they ask questions about how he is, quote, treating me, and if he is living up to this masculine role of his, essentially. We are now spending Christmas with his family, and his parents insisted that we have separate rooms. We are 30 years old! I'll be sleeping in his childhood room while he takes the living room couch, and I'm respecting that. The problem is we haven't had sex leading up to this trip, and now I'm worried we won't do it at all until we come home. He's getting increasingly embarrassed anytime I bring up sex, and I showed him that I packed something very cute and sexy, he turned bright red and seemed so embarrassed to even look at it. This is the worst I've seen it. He is beyond embarrassed about sex. I can't relate to this in my family, and I'm realizing that so much of his sexual repression stems from this intense pressure to marry and be pure for his parents. How do I talk to him about this and what do I do during this trip?” Okay, it can be really tough, just like what I just talked about in the last one right when your sexual values don't align, and this is, like, a big part of my work, and the big thing that I'm working on is about, like, sexual values, because I think people underestimate it's not just about how you what you do. It's about how you feel about what you're doing. And when these kind of things come up, sometimes we like our partner a little bit less, because this clash can be kind of intense, and it's really hard to want to have sex with someone that you don't fully respect or that you don't like as much. So that's kind of it chips away at the intimate relationship. Here's the thing, okay, you're in his parents house. You kind of just have to sleep in separate rooms. I mean, listen, I can so relate to you because, you know, my parents are from Iceland, and in Iceland, it's not that weird that your teenagers are dating and like sleep in the same room. But my friends, growing up in Connecticut, obviously totally different story. Lot of them had Catholic family. Their boyfriends weren't even allowed to be in their room with their door closed, you know. So it was an alien concept for me and for my friends too. At my house, I can totally relate to you being like, what is the problem? Like, what is going on? We are 30 years old, like we've been dating, like we're adults. Like, why are we sleeping in separate beds? A part of, a big part of this is that it's not always just about sex. It's also like a respect thing. It's like, well, we don't want to encourage it before marriage and all that stuff. But also, I think it's just weird sometimes people have a lot of sexual shame, and people have a lot of feeling like it's just weird sometimes to know that your children may be having sex under your roof, and it's like, you're probably gonna find a way to do it anyway. I mean, most people do, right, whether it's like in the shower or somewhere else in the car, whatever. But there's another side of it where it's like, okay, I feel like you will survive and get through it if you don't have sex for a couple days. And here's how I think you should tone it down a bit and kind of get to his level of things, and I want you to work on flirting with him and play a little hard to get and this is kind of my sweet answer. My not so sweet answer is, like you have to have a very serious discussion about where you are in terms of your sexual values. And like he has to work on that. If no one else is going to say it to you, I'm saying it to you. But you know, if we kind of come back down to earth and we don't catastrophize, if we're going to be grounded through this, because I know we can be, I would just turn up that sweetness and the flirtiness also come from a place of like, okay, there's a lot of things that happen in a relationship. Sex is one of them. It's part of our intimate lives. But what creates the sex, right? Like, it's liking and respecting one another. So when we are around each other's family, we should be kind to their family. We should want to interact with them with respect. You should really just kill them with kindness. You are a sweet person, and you're really helpful. You know, you are there and you're helping the dishes. You are just buttering up the mom. You know, it's just amazing to be here. Thank you so much for this beautiful Christmas Eve. I love spending the holidays with you. You know what I'm saying? Play it up, right? And I think that that like respect goes a long way, because I can tell that he really values, like what his family thinks. And he might be really embarrassed right now about talking about sex, because his mind is just like in family mode. And when he's in family mode, he doesn't want to think about sex. So I think that if you work on liking and respecting each other throughout this trip, you might be having better sex when you come home. And also, if you work on liking and respecting each other throughout this trip, and work on that like you exchange a little bit longer glances you are sleeping in separate rooms, but that means, like when you come together again, when you're we're You're finally home, even though you're probably sleeping the same bed in the apartment you both live in together. Right when you finally get to do that again, it might be extra, extra sweet. And also consider you're sleeping in his childhood bedroom. Like, that's really cute. You get to learn a little bit more about him and that part of his life that you weren't a part of. I know it can be really scary to be like, okay, sex is such a big part of our relationship. Also, if you haven't had sex like leading up to this, have a discussion about it from a place of separating it from the family. So I think the best thing to do wait until the holidays are over, then you can sit down and have a discussion if the intimacy doesn't pick up, and say, how can we work on this? What is it that makes you so uncomfortable. Can we identify it and Okay, now we know what it is. Let's talk about why that might be. Where do you think I'm coming from? Am I putting pressure on you? Do you feel like you aren't masculine enough during this Are you embarrassed about having sex because we're not married? Let's try to identify it and work through it together. If you come from a place of like, I want to work on this with you and not these are things you need to work on. We both know that these are things he needs to work on, right? But sometimes people aren't receptive to that, especially if you feel like you're scolding them, especially about sex, when they're already so sexually reserved and ease into allowing him into this part of your life. Sometimes we've got to meet people where they are. You clearly, like a lot of other things about him, you might just need to ease him into things. You might need to get him more comfortable with the idea of sexual exploration. Start small and work your way up, and you know, also acknowledge there's going to be things about him you can't change. And are you comfortable with that not changing for the rest of your relationship? That's the long answer, right? But enjoy this time without sex. Like what will it feel like to bond in a different way, in a new way that you haven't bonded together. And it might sound weird coming from a sex educator that I'm like, enjoy not having sex together, but I think that sometimes we gotta put things on the back burner to strengthen other parts of our relationship, and then when we revisit sex, it looks different and it feels different, and that could be a good thing.

So next question is very interesting. This is kind of like an ethical conundrum, and I do want to hear from you guys about this one for sure. “So my husband alluded to me gifting him a pro DOM session, and I don't really know if I want to. I'm not super into him watching BDSM porn, but I really don't mind if he goes and fulfills his kinks with someone, someone somewhere, as long as he isn't having unprotected sex, it's fine. I just feel like it's a weird thing to gift. How do I navigate this?”

Oh, where do I like really begin with this one? You know, let me say this to anyone about any question. We don't have to do the things other people ask of us. So whenever I'm giving advice, no matter what it is like, like, the last two questions, right? It's like, you don't have to go without sex for that long and still be really nice. Like, just because I'm saying, Oh, that could be good. You know, it's the same thing with this. You can put things on your list, but it doesn't mean that people have to get them for you.

A wish list is that's just what it is. It's a wish list. You are also his wife, and you're not Santa Claus. You might be Santa Claus to someone else, but not to him. That's the thing. It's like, just, no matter what the baseline is, don't do anything you're hesitant about. So that's I want to start there, and I want to make it really clear, but let me give you this to chew on, to consider a couple things here. So do you get jealous when he watches BDSM porn? Or does it just gross you out. Like, are you one of those people that's like, I just don't get it. Or are you, like, why am I not enough? Or maybe it's a mix of those two things, because those are, those are different feelings, right? It's that feeling of like, well, I just don't understand this. Like, why do you get off on this? And I don't know what his kink is, but you said BDSM porn, so I'm guessing it has something to do with what we consider, like the kind of the most common kinks, right? So something about either domination or impact play or something, and maybe it's just a new feeling to you to be with someone who is submissive. Maybe you just haven't ever thought about it before, like, maybe you've just been submissive, and then you being in a position where someone else is submissive, you're like, what do we do? As I've mentioned, it is hard to keep up an intimate relationship with someone that we don't respect, or even just like we really do, truly have to enjoy each other's company in a long term relationship in order to keep wanting sex with them, and if you can continue to enjoy His company after he you know he's going to Dom sessions, then you can continue to have an intimate life with him the way you want. And then this could work, right? But I do suggest you trust your gut on this and don't give it as a gift. Talk to him about it, and be like, Hey, I know you have this wish of me like gifting you this session, but we're married. It's our money together, so why don't we table that and circle back, you know, you can go corporate speak on his ass, circle back in the new year and discuss it more in depth after that, because I want to know what you're into and why you're into it, and I want there to be some negotiation and some really honest conversations about this, and if I give it to you as a gift, then I can't take that back. You don't really ask for things back, right? So I have to just do it, and that doesn't feel fair to me. So I really want you to be happy, and I want to explore this with you, but I'm not comfortable giving it away as a gift and see how he feels. Maybe he's suggesting it as a gift because he is afraid of these honest conversations, and I think that this is a decision you should make together. It's your money too, right? You're married. But also consider just what would it feel like to be curious about it. So if you're in the camp where you just you feel jealous, you're like, Well, why doesn't he want me to do this? Like, why can't I, like, kick his ass? Like, what the fuck like, I could bust his balls. Why doesn't he want me to maybe there's some issues in your relationship where he feels like he can't be fully open with you because he either, I mentioned this earlier, but like he respects you too much. It's like the Madonna whore thing, or he just needs something else that you can't provide, and you feel weird and bad about that. But if you're in the camp where you're like, none of that is really the problem. I just I personally am not into this. And like, I want him to be happy and I want him to be fulfilled. But like, this whole thing just kind of irks me. It grosses me out. I don't get it. I don't understand why people like this. Why do you want to be like, I don't know, like, slapped in the face, like, I don't get it. You know, I would suggest that you just do some reading about BDSM, or watch informative stuff about BDSM, not because I'm trying to coerce you to be into it, but maybe you will understand more about why he's into it. Maybe you'll be like, oh, like, there's freedom in not being the one making choices. Oh, like, this is something that you know he's he works really hard, and this is something that, this is where he feels free, or like, maybe you're like, Oh, I understand him more, because if you can come from a place of understanding and validation, then you're gonna maintain that respect, and you guys can enjoy your relationship together, even though he's doing this. But again, I can't tell you what to do, and I'm gonna tell you, if it feels weird to give it as a gift, don't give it as a gift. Period. You don't have to bend to somebody's Christmas wish list. Okay, we are not doing that. We're gonna be adults about it and make a decision together, and you can give him something related to his kink for Christmas, like, if you figure out, like, what it is that he's really into, maybe you can gift him like a gift him like a pair of handcuffs as an olive branch, you know, like he doesn't have to use them, but it's like, Hey, I see your thing. And maybe we can explore using this together, or, you know, gift him something that you can use together, or gift him something that represents it, like a great book on it, and be like I was hoping we could read it together and discuss stuff. So that way you're saying, hey, I really don't mind if you go and fulfill your kinks with someone somewhere, but I am not ready to give you the full pass yet, and I want to discuss this more.

Okay, so my last little listener question: “Last year, my friend group, about six women all in her late 20s, did a funny Secret Santa where we gave each other silly little gifts. A lot of them were sexy in a funny, light hearted way, like sex, dice, truth or dare cards, a candy bra. You get the point, we opened the dice and just jokingly played two three rounds, and two of the girls ended up kissing, but it was really not a big deal, and it was just for fun. However, one of our friends who wasn't being kissed or doing the kissing, told her boyfriend, and now he has alerted some of our partners that we are having some sort of sex crazed parties where we love to cheat on them. I cannot believe this is happening, and it feels so weird. It has definitely caused a rift in our friend group, and it makes me feel like we are their property based on some of their reactions, I feel insane. Am I going crazy or was this not a big deal at all?”

Okay, so I love this question people have, like, so many different takes on this, because let me kind of just like play ref again here, I can totally see right, how you're like, it's really not a big deal. It's just like a kiss on the lips. Like, who cares? And while someone else could be like, I don't want my boyfriend kissing another girl on the lips that back and forth, back and forth. I think that what you need to do is put the rumors to rest. I think somebody has to be like, we're the adults in the room right now. You know, I think what we did was fun and it was just harmless. We were having fun the way you do during a bachelorette party, and it was a kiss on the lips. There was nothing sexual. It was funny and fun and light hearted, and it was not a big deal to us. And then you can say to the people whose partners were hurt by it, they need to deal with it on their own, because dragging the rest of you into this was probably an act of like desperation and like anger, you know what I mean. But I agree, like it is a little weird, and you said it makes me feel like we're their property based on some of their reactions, I can totally get where you're coming from with that, because it's like we're not allowed to have a little fun, you know? But I know that a lot of people see this as like, Well, if the guys got together and kissed girls, but it's like, well, no, if the guys got together and two of the guys kissed as a joke, like, with that's what we're comparing here. That's the comparison. It's not like you guys invited two random men and played the sex dice with them and kissed them on the mouth. You kissed each other and you're friends. And like, some people don't see intimacy like that as a big deal. Some people do see it as a huge deal. I have friends who they're in relationships, and they still like make out with, like, you know, girlfriends that like make out with girls when they're clubbing, sometimes just because it's fun, but they wouldn't go further than that, and they're just like, they're just feeling a lot of feelings, and they just want to express it. And they just love making out with people. It feels good. And they make out with some of their girlfriends, right? And their boyfriends, like whatever at the same time. It opens up Pandora's Box whenever I talk about this issue, because it's like, well, you're not respecting someone's bisexuality, if you're not letting them, you know, like that whole thing. And it's like, well, if it's a bunch of straight girls, even if it is a bunch of BI girls, or a bunch of lesbian girls, whatever it's the intent, like, did you intend on, you know, kissing them, to have some sort of, like, cheating? I don't even think this is a discussion of, like, whether it was cheating or not. I think a lot of it was just, what are they doing without us knowing? And that does feel really weird. So that's like, my take on it, that I personally wouldn't be super into my friend's boyfriend's like, scolding me. That's just crossing a line, and it's okay if you speak up about that and you're like, Hey, don't drag me into you being mad at your partner. Like, what I see it your way. It's just a kiss. Like, like we were just having fun because we don't actually like each other. But I can totally also understand if someone says we don't kiss other people, period. And someone kissed someone else, then they could be upset, but that sounds like a them problem. Doesn't sound like your problem, right? I love like a cheeky kiss with a friend. It's so cute, so fun, like, who cares? But anything further than that, I'd be like, this is a this is a bit much, you know, but that's just me. That's just me. That's a glimpse into how I feel about it.

Okay, so let me go through my sex trends for 2025! I have yet to be wrong. Okay, this is, like, I don't know, my fifth year doing this or something, I have yet to be wrong about, like, I always get at least one of these, right? I should say, you know, and by the way, I'm gonna, like I said, I'm gonna flesh these out a little bit more next week, including some sex resolutions and stuff like that. And I would love to get your sex resolutions. What do you want to change in your sex life, or your just personal, intimate life from 2025 DM me, email me, put it in my anonymous question box, let me know. Okay, so I personally think we are going to see more media depictions of dominant women that are multifaceted, not just mean, I think like we're we're used to seeing like the dominant woman archetype that's like, really mean, and she like, puts people down around her. I think we're gonna see like a softer side of a woman who's dominant in terms of she knows what she wants and she tells people, and she can be really nice to her girlfriends and the people in her life, and she can be so sweet and caring to her partner, but also has that dominant side to her. I think we're gonna get a good depiction of this. I don't know when or where. I feel like maybe a Nicole Kidman type will probably play that role, but I don't know, we'll see it's a little bit like people were really hungry for it after seeing challengers. They wanted more of it. So I think we're gonna get it maybe at the end of this year, who knows? Speaking of I think we are gonna see more bisexual men depicted in media. They said that 2024 was the year of the bisexual but baby, we own every year. Let's be real like I'm just calling it like I see it. But I think we're gonna really lean into knowing and understanding bisexual male characters. And what I mean by that is, again, multifaceted. I think it's going to be less of like that stereotypical bisexual, like greedy doesn't know what they want, shifty, like the way we're often portrayed. And also the he's actually gay, but is just calling him by himself by kind of thing like that. I think we're gonna throw that out the window, and I think we're gonna see some better depictions. I think they're gonna be hot, like, really hot. I think they're gonna be exciting for people, okay? I think cutesy, pink and purple-ey girly girl sex toys will become less popular.Yeah, and we're going to start to see kind of more higher, what do I say, like a high femme version of things that are more classic? I'm even talking things like, we're going to see more like chrome details and Pearl. We might even see buttons of pearl or something like that, and packaging with like wood lacquer, maybe like a red nail polish, varnish type deal. I think we're gonna start to see vibrators becoming packaged like beauty products. They kind of already are in some niche spaces. I think we're really gonna see more of this. And I'm saying this now on December 28 2024 I think we're gonna see, like, a major producer of sex toys create a packaging that is, like, extra extra luxurious, and that's what I would do if I owned a sex toy company. But at the same time, I think that the prices are gonna get better. So I think they're gonna get cheaper, but they're gonna look better. I think we're about to hit like, the sweet spot before this bubble bursts. But speaking of, I think the lube bubble, the lubricant bubble is bursting. And I think that a lot of these, like white label brands of lube, will phase out, and more of these practical things are becoming the norm. I think things like travel size, you know, squeeze tubes versus, like, hard taps. I think like, these are the things people are caring more about. Formula, better loop packaging, the more innovative brands will win the race here. I think that the Mainstays and the most innovative ones are gonna are gonna survive at the end of it next. I think that more sex toys will come out with thumping motions, and I think they're going to be bigger. So right now we have some thumping. What I mean by thumping is, like, it's press, press, press, press, press, like that. Kind of like tapping, almost motion. I correctly predicted the thrusting toy phenomenon, and so now I'm predicting there's going to be a thumping or pressing, but it's going to be broader. It's not just going to be, like a tap on the clit type toy. I think it's gonna be the whole vulva. I think it's gonna be like a magic wand style, but like thumping somehow we'll see it. Okay. I feel it. I can feel it in my bones. It's on the horizon. I can feel it. It's coming. This one's a little bit out there, but my prediction here is that as sex ed gets more censored and becomes more outlawed in the United States. I think that print might make a big comeback for both. Actually, you know what I'm going to add both porn and sex ed. I think it's going to be less porn, like hardcore porn. I think it's going to be like, we're going to be seeing a lot of like, traditional media, so print and cinema that has, like, really erotic undertones that are not hardcore. I think we're gonna see more softcore stuff than ever and but for sex ed, I think that magazines or just zines and books for adolescents, like, when I mean print, I'm also talking about like Kindle, because we're seeing a huge, like, smut book, erotic literature renaissance right now, and I think that sex ed is gonna do the same. I think there's gonna be shorter books. I think there's gonna be more geared towards adolescents, and I think it's gonna come back. I really do predict. I can feel it, you know, or Netflix will produce something sex ed based in 2025, I think it's gonna be for young adults. I think it's not just gonna be like a sex explained I think it's gonna be a really like, well made one. But this is a pipe dream. This is like, not even prediction. This is just like a wish list at this point. But the rest of them were predictions for sex acts. Listen, I don't know why, but I think, I think that the hand job will be really in to, like, talk about and joke about, I don't know why. I think blow jobs out, hand jobs in right now. Speaking of I think dry humping and like long make out sessions. I think just in general, I think it's going to be the year of slow sex. It's going to be more erotic, slow burn depictions of sex. I think that's going to be the winner in 2025 we're going to see less like, we're gonna definitely see a lot less, like hardcore stuff, and more of this, like almost kinky, how erotic and slow it is.

Maybe all of America will be edged through the media like, I think, I think we're gonna see a lot of highly erotic but not necessarily, lots of sex scenes where it's like dripping in horniness, but like, no one's actually depicted putting it in you know what I'm saying? I think that's kind of the direction we're going in, and I'm not mad about it. Turn up the horniness in cinema. Nicole Kidman said it best we come to this place. I'll just stop there. I hope you're enjoying this holiday season. No matter if you celebrate or what you celebrate, I hope you enjoy the new year and have fun, stay safe, make good choices and DM me some of your reactions to these questions. And what are your resolutions for 2025 Do you want to have less sex, more sex, different types of sex, tell me, and we will discuss them, and I will give you some tips and tricks, sending you all my love from Brooklyn, New York.